Ahh, the self-saboteur at it again! You courageously stepped out of your comfort zone, excited by the prospect of a new challenge that would give you the lifestyle you truly wanted and you know you were capable of developing. You started with great enthusiasm and gusto. So you were off to a flying start, but then…
Things started to unravel. You seemed to be taking more steps backwards than forwards. It wasn’t running smoothly or progressing as it should have. Yet you had followed the advice of the experts. Why wasn’t it working? What had you done wrong? Should you have done this and not that? How did you ever think that you could do this? What were you thinking?
There it is – self-doubt.
The great lie. The great saboteur at it again.
Get it out of your head. Now. But how?
You can break this habit.
Read the blog next week to see another simple way to do this.
Implement mindset strategies to put self-doubt back in its box.
Here 4 ways to do that.
# 1: GROWTH MINDSET FOR PERSONAL IMPROVEMENTS
With this mindset you know that your qualities and abilities are not fixed. These can be developed through commitment and effort. Growth mindsets embrace life-long learning because of this focus on learning. You don’t get hung up on ‘can or can’t but rather the ability to learn, grow and get better over time.
Recent advances in neuroscience have shown that the brain is quite malleable. With learning, practice and action, neural networks grow new connections, strengthen existing ones and build insulations that speeds transmission of impulses. With this growth comes many benefits such as:
- improve your sense of self-worth
- enjoy the process of learning
- boost your confidence
- disregard stereotypes and comparisons
- capacity to accept setbacks or failures as learning opportunities.
# 2: DISTANCING MINDSET FOR GETTING OUT OF THE MENTAL PIT
Known as ‘psychological distancing’ this mindset enables you to:
- step back from a situation
- withhold your immediate response
- check out the environment and
- reflect on a course of action instead of being dominated by the immediate stimulation.
When self-doubt threatens to overtake you, briefly distancing yourself, psychologically, can give you emotional relief and actually help you solve issues.
By toggling the way you address yourself, you flip a switch in the cerebral cortex, the center of thought and another in the amygdala, the seat of fear. This moves you closer to or further from your sense of self and all its emotional intensity. Gaining psychological distance enables self-control and competent performance. Released from negative thoughts, you gain perspective, focus deeply and plan what future action to take.
# 3. A NON-COMPETITIVE MINDSET WHICH PREVENTS COMPARISONS
When self-doubt sets in you begin to develop a sense of inferiority, fueled by comparisons and competitiveness. Competitiveness fosters a winner-takes-all attitude. There is one winner and everyone else is a loser with this approach. Competitiveness can have a vicious downward spiral into a scarcity mindset, a notion developed by Napoleon Hill, author of Think and Grow Rich. This scarcity thinking believes that there is only so much love, money, and recognition to go around. So any person’s success means that there is less available for you.
A non-competitive mindset promotes collaboration, sharing, growth and learning. It holds an abundant mindset where there is more than enough for everyone. This can quell the tide of self-doubt.
The point is to free yourself of the negative, even toxic, competitive energy. Keep self-doubt away by seeking collaborative opportunities and communities.
# 4. AN ATTITUDE CERTAINTY MINDSET
Certainty profoundly shapes your behavior. The more certain you are in a belief, the more durable and greater its influence on you. Attitude certainty refers to the conviction you have about your attitudes. Individuals who are uncertain of their attitudes are more susceptible to persuasion and often experience self-doubt.
Attitude certainty is what beliefs or values you stand for and defend, what you determine to be positive and negative and the degree you feel that your attitudes are accurate or correct.
Self-doubt in correct doses can be the catalyst that drives us to work harder, improve, expand as a person. But crippling self-doubt causes us pain and diminishment. Do what works for you to keep self-doubt on the beneficial end of the scale.
Change your mindset, change your life
Thankfully we know a great deal about the amazing abilities of our brains. Thus we are not hard wired, so we always have the option to change by changing our mindsets. Never Doubt Yourself – The Enemy Within is a terrific short (5 minutes) video. This has a strong, powerful message that I really encourage you to watch. I would love it if you shared your thoughts in the comments section below.
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